Dd goes through my refrigerator and pantry looking at expiration dates and 'cleans' out everything 'expired' in both, throwing it into the garbage, even if it is unopened...everything time she comes visiting. And makes a 'big' deal from my lack of 'good housekeeping' even if it is a small little little dark spot on the back side of my john. Or if the guest bedroom is 'too' cluttered with boxes (from quilting room). She seems to 'forget' that it is my house and my life here.
I love her dearly, but, she needs to come visit ME.
And when Dh said he would do the dishes every other day, the odd dates on the calendar, I said "Ok" but he forgets what day or date it is. Unless he has made a big mess of the kitchen, I just smile and clean it up anymore.