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Need help on having a lasting and happy marriage! How do you do it?

Old 07-16-2011, 12:31 PM
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My husband of 42 years was my "date" to my grandparents 50th anniversary party. We went into our marriage EXPECTING it to last at least that long. I think wanting and expecting the marriage to last is the best way to start a lasting marriage. (I was one month short of my 20th birthday when we wed.)
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Old 07-16-2011, 12:51 PM
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Mutual respect, being a good listener, and making time for one another. Married my highschool sweetheart at 18 yrs. Just celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary.
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Old 07-16-2011, 12:57 PM
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So many good replies and advice for you from all the dear quilters!!! I wish you lots of love and patience with each other and a thing that I find very important is RESPECT. Also I found when things got a bit rough in our marriage - this year we will have been married for 39 years, together for 41 years!!! :-D - communication wasn't working properly. So make sure you communicate in a sensible manner. And if things get REALLY rough, don't be too proud to seek help. I wish you both a life full of happiness and lots of blessings :thumbup: :lol:
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Old 07-16-2011, 01:01 PM
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Love trust and respect. It is a give and take at all times.
Stay happy and in love, even in the hard times, you will pull through.
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Old 07-16-2011, 01:03 PM
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Learn to laugh, at yourself and with each other,no matter how bad things look there is always something to laugh about.
When you have children make time for yourselves,the best thing my husband and I did for our marriage was taking a weekend for US once in a while when our children were growing up. It doesn't have to be a weekend == an hour, a date night, a long walk but take the time to focus on each other. This must have worked== we were married 51 years July 1.
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Old 07-16-2011, 01:06 PM
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Old 07-16-2011, 01:34 PM
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Originally Posted by NancyG
Trust, communication, honesty, fidelity, sense of humor, and don't sweat the small stuff!
Also, treat each other with respect.
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Old 07-16-2011, 01:54 PM
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Originally Posted by leatheflea
Cant help ya, divorced. In a relationship though, 5 years or so. I've learned that it doesnt matter which way the toilet paper comes off the roll.

it matters in this house! LOL hate it when it doesn't come over the top!
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Old 07-16-2011, 01:59 PM
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Be sure to always make time for Each other and have a little fun, It seams when you have been married a while and the kids come, you can get to busy to spend much Fun time together. So enjoy each other and good luck to you
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Old 07-16-2011, 02:03 PM
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Find things to laugh about together each day. If it's a hard subject to bring up, agree that you get 3 minutes to talk, then he gets 3 minutes, etc. and no interrupting from the other during talking time. That ensures that you each get heard and understood. And when there are kids, have a date night each week....
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