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    Old 03-23-2011, 12:51 AM
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    I would have said...I am so glad I get to work at home! I was home for a year when laid off...and it is more work at home than at work....only difference is you get paid. My husband use to say what did you do all day...the house was spotless..and not noticed since I cleaned every day....I started to write of a list of my daily chores and what I did...I was even surprised on the amount of work that gets done. (Garden, weeding, cleaning, raking, mopping, clothes, making bed, shoveling, cooking..etc...glad to be back at work and the housework is shared once again and being able to slack off....
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    Hey you should have just said "Yep some have to work and some get to quilt" I think she was feeling sorry for herself..she HAS to work...some people HAVE to work because they over extended themselves and are in debt up to their eyeballs...my DH & I live on a limited income..we just don't have or do anything fancy...but we are happy and I can quilt when I want to....don't let her comment bother you...you know that you are doing a service that makes others happy and gives them comfort..that is all that is important..Keep on Stitchin' Linda B.
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    Old 03-23-2011, 01:03 AM
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    she demonstrated a certain degree of ignorance and bad manners.

    i'd say she slapped her own face.

    no need to feel the sting on your cheeks. ;-)
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    Old 03-23-2011, 01:06 AM
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    Originally Posted by chairjogger
    So, I make comfort quilts for children's hospital. Got hit by the "Oh I don't have time, I work." comment..
    My face still stings after that. Felt like I was slapped.

    If I could work, I would !! Was really nice and told this woman, "OK, but I do have time. "

    hmmm.. in the dumps today.
    You do have a job......being a decent caring human being.....seems you're doing pretty well with that.....
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    Old 03-23-2011, 02:06 AM
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    I get that a lot too -
    "I just don't have the time to quilt... would you make me one?"

    I reply with a couple of different things:

    - I make the time, because it is important to me.
    - I'm not sure you could afford my prices....
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    Old 03-23-2011, 02:35 AM
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    I have friends who work but wish they could stay at home. But people are lucky to still have a job outside of home so I would have said "Oh that's too bad".
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    Old 03-23-2011, 02:48 AM
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    don't take it personal...lots of non-sewers say things like that...they do not understand that some of us work full time jobs (and still quilt) some are retired, some are disabled; it makes no difference...the whole time thing cracks me up!
    we all have the same 24 hours in each day...what we choose to do with those hours are personal choices...some people do not have time to sew anything but can sit on the couch and watch 2-3 hours of tv every night...some people choose to do other things with their time...just ignore comments made with no knowledge of what they are talking about...don't feel slapped...feel that you are a productive person who uses some of your time quilting, while the non-quilter spends her free time doing something else....work has nothing to do with a person's value!
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    Old 03-23-2011, 02:59 AM
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    My feelings are that when you allow another person to get to you for no matter what reason then you are allowing them control over your feelings. She wins and you lose. Please don't let inconsiderate feelings from others make you feel miserable. Believe in yourself enough to know you are being the best you can be and not allow others to make you feel inferior in any way. Many of the comments listed above are so very true. But IMHO we are our own worst enemy in most situations when we allow others to make us feel bad and continue to stew over what was said. Their opinion/s should hold no value in your heart/head when your own self worth should be the most important thing for you. Believe in yourself and your accomplishments no matter what they are. You are the best YOU....and never allow anyone to take that away from you.
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    Old 03-23-2011, 03:06 AM
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    I am sorry that happened but don't let it bother you. It wasn't meant to hurt you, she was probably trying to justify to herself why she wasn't as giving as you.
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    Old 03-23-2011, 03:12 AM
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    When presented with a comment like "I don't have time to do that" my classic reply is "Make time". If you want to do something bad enough nothing will stand in your way .... but, you already know that!
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    Old 03-23-2011, 03:15 AM
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    I'm thinking she was justifying her inability to help and didn't realize how that would sound to you!!! Be proud of yourself....... you are making a difference!
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