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#41
[quote=Sloan Quinn]This sounds like my husband, before he was my husband. I do want to point out that while it most certainly is not a good example, it is also not necessarily abuse. Even back then (when he was still with his ex-wife), he would only curse at the boys when he was either really angry or they had just scared him out of his wits - the younger of the two had a tendency to punch windows and break them when he was little, for example.
Yes, it IS abuse!
Yes, it IS abuse!
#42
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: near San Antonio
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Oh? So if he were to say "You scared the $*** out of me! What the hell were you thinking?!" when one of them falls and just about splits his head open on a table, that's abuse? Sounds like parental concern to me.
Now, if he called him a f****** idiot for falling, that would be abuse.
I don't know how many quilters here curse, but for one who does, when they get startled, or scared, or angry, words that you may not normally say in present company do slip out. That's why we teach children not to curse from the start. Would you want to get flustered in a job interview and suddenly drop an F-bomb? It's just a fact of life. Some people curse, and while they may or may not normally do it around their children or to their children, it does happen on occasion.
Now, if he called him a f****** idiot for falling, that would be abuse.
I don't know how many quilters here curse, but for one who does, when they get startled, or scared, or angry, words that you may not normally say in present company do slip out. That's why we teach children not to curse from the start. Would you want to get flustered in a job interview and suddenly drop an F-bomb? It's just a fact of life. Some people curse, and while they may or may not normally do it around their children or to their children, it does happen on occasion.
#43
Seems to me a verse from Romans 12:20 is appropriate here: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." You could also add a nice label on the back with a verse like this one: "For, whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech." I Peter 3:10
#45
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Cumming GA (formerly, NJ)
Posts: 162
Pray as you go. Prayer is the best gift, and if he does not change, you have at least been in a better place as you work.
I think you are within your rights to insist he clean up his language in your hosue. We limit smokers, don't we? A simple statement of "That is not acceptable here" is factual, non-judgemental and sets an example for the kids that you have standards for polite conversation. If you don't, the kids will be using these words to you!
Hugs,
Christine
I think you are within your rights to insist he clean up his language in your hosue. We limit smokers, don't we? A simple statement of "That is not acceptable here" is factual, non-judgemental and sets an example for the kids that you have standards for polite conversation. If you don't, the kids will be using these words to you!
Hugs,
Christine
#46
Originally Posted by Gwyn
Have your daughter and grandchildren come over for cookies and quilting. Let t hem help you tie it or even big stitch it with yarn. It is okay to just get it done. If you have the money, send it to a quilter. Take a picture first in case it doesn't get back for Christmas. That way you have something to wrap up and let him open.
#47
Originally Posted by dsb38327
? Maybe draw devil faces on the wrong side of your backing ? As you are pinning you can let your imagination go wild!!!!!!!!!!!
I vote the parents get to choose the spouse. :)
I vote the parents get to choose the spouse. :)
#49
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Galveston Texas
Posts: 1,596
Pray for him and remember he does this because he doesn't feel good about himself. I don't know his background but I bet it probably was not happy. Set an example for him, kill him with kindness.
By doing this quilt, it may open his eyes a little and maybe he will become a better person. Any way it will make your daughter happy.
By doing this quilt, it may open his eyes a little and maybe he will become a better person. Any way it will make your daughter happy.
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