Mousie

yup, yup, yup!

zozee

Okay, everybody. It's not your problem. I would hate to think I'd be treated or spoken about (like some here's age done) for damaging a pair of $25 scissors. take the high road, okay?

People are more important than things, and the SIL was doing a favor with the deck stuff. I would be disappointed and maybe angry for a short while, but I, too have been guilty of breaking or ruining someone else's belonging by accident or ignorance (meaning not knowing the value of a certain thing). Haven't you? Sure, I'm very protective of my scissors and have trained my family accordingly, but not by humiliating them or casting stones. I've shown them my Ginghers and have scolded them for (long ago) once using the sewing Fiskars.

How how about applying the Golden Rule to this situation which --I repeat-- is not anyone else's problem here. I would let my SIL know in a normal tone ( after I had calmed down or whatever on the inside) why sewing scissors are made only for fabric, and I'm guessing he'd feel sorry and offer to replace them. But I would not insist. I would give grace because everyone needs grace. I'm not gonna bite the hand that's fixing my deck!

Mousie

um, zozee, I'm not sure anybody here is THAT serious.
We love our families, but it does hurt to have your things ruined.
She was just venting among ppl that would understand.
She's forgave him already I am sure.
Not being assertive and saying, "You hurt me when you did that"...that's
not the Golden Rule.
She'll wait till she's calmed down to say something, or she may not
say anything.
Around here we share with the motto:
You use it-ok. ( I do NOT share scissors though!)
You break it, you replace it.
Now THAT'S fair and golden.
Have a nice day today.

Mousie

I haven't read all nine pages of this thread, so going from the back to the front.
This cracked me up!

Mousie

That seems really fair

Mousie

bear, I hear you.
ok, I have one more comment and then I'm done:
I agree there is more than one way to look at this thing.
People just have differing opinions about how to handle things.
My last point is that not all of us can afford to replace even a $25.00 pair
of scissors, but NONE of us can afford to lose our boundaries.

zozee

I'm saying the tones are here sound quite serious. If you're not, then how about an emoji or an LOL? I do think some ppl are livid. As fur the Golden Rule, I'm referring to those commenters' remarks who aren't giving this guy a break. I'm sure the SIL has been forgiven by his MIL but how about from some of those here who sound ready to lop off his head. I'm not downplaying the cost of $25 scissors. I just do not understand how ppl get worked so worked up about someone else's situation that they say things. Calling someone stupid?

indymta

Here's a twist on your story. Years ago when we moved into our new house, I used my husband's Gerber knife
to cut shelf paper. It was a smaller knife, worked better than scissors (to get a good cut) and was very sharp.
When my husband got home and saw what I was doing, he didn't say a word but took the knife from me, looked at it then pointed to the small chipped place on the blade. I was so sorry and bless his heart he didn't yell or anything, he just put it away. I felt terrible. I found out when I contacted the company that the knife could be re-sharpened. I sent it off and it was made good as new. Maybe you can tell him this story and he'll get the hint.

Gail B

I used my favourite smaller scissors to pry out my bobbin after it jammed in the bobbin case & thought I had bent the tip because they would no longer cut to the point. Not a good decision. I thought they were good for the trash but took them to Joann's to have them sharpened just in case they could be brought back to original condition. Cost me $6. & they are as good as new. Take them to get sharpened.