momcpo

AMEN Sista!!! Would love to hear the skillet story, lol

QuiltingJaguar

Well said I bet you feel better now also!!

gmaybee

My husband will go into the quilt shop where I teach (when I'm not there) and ask the gals what I want. Then will bring me home something. He's even signed me up for a class with another teacher and bought the special bobbin case I needed for my machine. On vacations I look up quilt shops on the route we're going and he stops for me. He likes going in and looking at everything.
His hobbies are golfing, hunting, and fishing. I'll go fishing with him once in awhile. We enjoy spending time together.
One thing he did say to me was he hopes nothing happens to me before him, because he wouldn't know what to do with all my quilting/sewing stuff.

rainbow quilter

Agreed, 100%!

I work full time and make more than my husband. We're lucky enough to be at the point in our lives where we have extra for hobbies and fun things. We do check with each other if we're going to spend more than a few hundred dollars, but other than that I've budgeted for extras.

My husband does have his own rocking chair in my sewing room and he's welcome in there any time. I usually watch baseball or football while I'm quilting and he comes back and watches the game with me.

I can't imagine him telling me to get rid of anything any more than I would tell him to get rid of a fishing pole or one of his video games.

SparkMonkey

My fiance and I recently had a discussion about how we want to manage our money once we're married, and we decided that we'll have a main account for household/day-to-day/this-is-expensive-so-we're-in-on-this-together expenditures, and we'll each keep our current personal checking accounts with an equal monthly "allowance." Our personal accounts are how we'll pay for personal things like my crafting and his running shoes, as well as gifts and surprises we don't want ruined.

He'll always make more money than me, but I've never once felt like he viewed that as any kind of leverage or entitlement to more "say" in a matter. He values my opinion and there is 100% mutual respect between us. And on my side of things, I absolutely do not view him as a meal ticket or fund for my hobbies. It helps that neither of us is much concerned with having "stuff." I know he's not going to come home with a ridiculously expensive car, and he knows I'm not going to come home with a handbag that costs a rent payment. ;)

If we didn't agree on this, well... we probably wouldn't be engaged to begin with, but we'd most definitely have to at least come to a compromise before signing that paper. I am a loud-and-proud believer in complete equality in relationships, and I've got a really strong example in my parents. I can't begin to say how blessed I feel that J and I already see eye-to-eye on the important things.

Country1

Sorry your friends husband is such an a**!
I must be lucky because my husband is always encouraging me to buy what I want even if I don't need it. He buys me vintage sewing machines, vintage toy sewing machines and alot of other stuff. I no longer am able to do public work, but he always says ours never mine. Love my husband and know I am VERY lucky!!!
Lord help him if he ever embaressed me like that in private, much less in front of anyone. Thank God we were both raised with better manners than that.
As for your friends husband, he is probably jealous of her talent, having friends, not being the center of attention, and chances our his father treated his mom the same way.
I hope the verbal abuse is not physical in private. Although, verbal is ABUSE!!!!!!!!!

michelehuston

Very well said!!! :thumbup:

hannajo

Me too. That's how my parents have always done it. We've had disagreements and even a few arguments over money, but we've never had to hide anything from each other.

Marcia D

I stopped feeling guilty about buying fabric. Yea me!

lynnegreen

So important to establish money before marriage. My ex DH spent a dime for every nickle and we suffered. I eventually remairried and am so happy to have someone who looks at the whole marriage, especially the money aspect, as a partnership. We have our own accounts and then a joint for the bills. It has been very successful for us.