dewie45

I am a cancer survivor. While I was not so private about it at the time I was undergoing treatment for lymphoma, I was very tired of being considered first for my disease. Sometimes I felt I could see it in people's eyes, or not. Some would not even look me in the eyes. I would have loved a quilt, but not one that spoke first of my cancer. It's a hard call to know how individuals react.

I have two friends who did survive breast cancer. They are private too and prefer not to dwell on the past. A quilt with such a public icon would not suit them at all.

You know your sister better than any of us and your thoughts or doubts are more relevant than our opinions.

The most important thing, it seems to me, is that you are making this quilt "backed" with love.

Quilt-Till-U-Wilt

I have no experience with this but I had friends who had family members with cancer. They bought the cancer bracelets and I thought then I could never wear one. It's a constant reminder. I'd rather think cheerful thoughts.

piepatch

I lost a very dear relative to breast cancer, and it was horrible, lingering illness. Her mother told me recently that she didn't want anything with the breast cancer awareness ribbons because it would have been a constant reminder of the cancer, and she didn't want that. She didn't want to be defined by the cancer in the days she had left.

grann of 6

I agree with this. My DDIL is a breast cancer survivor, as is her mother and 2 of her 4 sisters. She hates pink, and she lives with the reminder of it every day when she looks in the mirror. My husband suffered for 7 years with daily reminders of his cancer. I don't need to look at some ribbon to be reminded. I just think it is a market tool to make money. Sure some of it goes to research; but we still have breast cancer hanging over our head. How many millions and millions of dollars have been raised? And we still don't have a cure.

didi

I've just gone through breast cancer, I am now cancer free. My sister made me a lap quilt, when going for treatments with the pink ribbons. Yes, I think she would love it...If she is private about the breast cancer, the ribbons are on the backing, but it will reminder her of how lucky she is to be cancer free and living. I think God has a reason for everybody on this earth, believe there is a reason I'm living, hopefully to help others going through this cancer. My sister and I now try to make at least 4 lap quilts a year to take to the treatment center to hand out to patents.

atvrider

Is your sister a pink person? When I make a quilt for a special person, I consider their tastes. No matter what color you use, just the idea of having a quilt made from love is the memory.

be a quilter

Personally, I would go for a backing that gave her pleasant thoughts rather than the cancer reminders. She is very much aware of the cancer and probably would like to think about something else for a change. Just my thought. God bless you for being so thoughtful to her!

Jeanniebelle

I would think that it would be a reminder to your sister that she is a fighter and a survivor of this horrible disease. There are many women and men who have not been so lucky as your sister. Also, I am sure your sister will realize that your gift is one of love and hope. Jeanniebelle

SimpleCook29

just ask.. the deal is that with those fabrics, when you buy them a certain portion goes to the cure for cancer foundation.

thseabreze

I am a breast cancer survivor also, and was a private person with it...and I do not like the pink ribbons, I would much rather have a quilt made for me, from my sister, than one made for my illness...the ribbons is a constant reminder, in your face, of what you have, or had, and trust me, it stays with you anyway, but inside. Not something to have to look at daily. A pretty from a sister is my idea of a gift, and I have made a couple quilts for my sisters, that both died from cancers. I also prayed for each one as I sewed for them.