Quilt as wedding gift?
#31
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Horse Country, FL
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Ten years ago I told a good friend that I was going to give her son money for a wedding gift. Her answer was, "That's better than a quilt." I was too shocked to add anything more. So at the reception, guess what? There was an unwraped quilt on the gift table. It made me sad to think someone's work wouldn't be appreciated.
#33
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Heart of Colorado's majestic mountains!
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I think this is a hard call. I like to ask the couple (usually the gal) about colors. I am always happy when I see it used but I don't worry about it. I have had one DIL say she is afraid of it. It goes along with the rest of her attitude. My son loves it even though it resides on the closet shelf. I am a believer that the gift is the choice of the giver rather than the demand of the receiver. I cherish the handmade things I have received over the years-some are tatters,
#34
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Join Date: Feb 2018
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 193
I am in the process of making one for my grandson's wedding in December. I am using his high school colors (even though he will graduate from college this year) because he and his bride coach at that high school so they will both enjoy the colors. If nothing else, they can stay warm at the ballgames. I am excited about doing this and frightened too because this is only my third quilt.
#35
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Location: MN
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It takes me a long time to get something made.
If I think the recipients would prefer something other than a quilt - that is what they will get.
I am not in the group that believes in giving (things I consider to be) treasures to the unappreciative.
Yes, I do care about what happens to the quilts I make after they leave my custody. I have a lot of money, time, effort, and thought invested in them.
Yes - I have heard about that what a recipient does with a gift if up to him/her.
I think it is up to me to be aware of what my feelings might be if something I have toiled over will not be appreciated.
If I think the recipients would prefer something other than a quilt - that is what they will get.
I am not in the group that believes in giving (things I consider to be) treasures to the unappreciative.
Yes, I do care about what happens to the quilts I make after they leave my custody. I have a lot of money, time, effort, and thought invested in them.
Yes - I have heard about that what a recipient does with a gift if up to him/her.
I think it is up to me to be aware of what my feelings might be if something I have toiled over will not be appreciated.
#37
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Durham, NC
Posts: 851
I am in the process of making one for my grandson's wedding in December. I am using his high school colors (even though he will graduate from college this year) because he and his bride coach at that high school so they will both enjoy the colors. If nothing else, they can stay warm at the ballgames. I am excited about doing this and frightened too because this is only my third quilt.
#38
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Durham, NC
Posts: 851
I made a quilt for my niece for her wedding and she seemed appreciative but I got the feeling that it just wasn't her decor to have quilts around. She is a more modern gal. I have made a couple of baby quilts for nieces and nephews but no thank you's or any acknowledgement so I just decided not to make quilts for anyone except immediate family and only if they ask for one. I will be watching this post to see what everyone else says. Lately I have just been giving a check and let them buy what they would like.
#39
Just something to think about from the recipients view point.
When I give a quilt it has already been washed and the only guidance is "treat it like every day clothes, use it and wash it and use it some more.
#40
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Hampstead N.C.
Posts: 1,870
This thread makes me sad. People who appreciate a quilt should have a quilt made for them. If one is asking if it's a good idea, it is a possibility that it not a good idea. The giver wants to be her efforts to be appreciated and will be hurt if its not. The quilts we make unless a kit are one of a kind, not a dime a dozen. I only make for those who I know like a one of a kind, made with Love.
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