Peckish

Help her make one, you might be surprised how good you end up feeling. I know of one quilter who made a baby quilt for her ex and his new wife when they had a baby, and now she's really happy she did. You can read her story here.

http://www.thatgirlthatquilt.com/201...part-four.html

LindaM49

Since I don't have an "X" husband it's kind of hard to think what I would do. What I THINK I would do is this. See exactly what pattern she wants to use. Then on your own scrap fabric show her how to cut it and then tell her to use 1/4" seams when she pieces it for the top. Tell her what kind of batting to use and see what backing she wants to use. Again...show her with your own fabric how you make a quilt sandwich. Is she planning to stitch in the ditch or FMQ or send it out to be quilted. Oh...and binding of course...again show her on your own scrap fabric. I consider THIS helping...and not doing it for her.

Did she specify what she wanted from you...strictly guidance or does she want you to actually have hands on sewing/quilting for your X?

I guess a logical question too is...how old is your daughter? If she is really little then I would probably consider the hands on approach. But if she is a teenager or older then I would go with the guidance approach.

Vicki W

I would do whatever my daughter needed done to make the quilt if that was what she wanted to do (upto donating fabric from my stash).

Both of my daughters are grown now and neither has a relationship with their father. His choice and now their's but I have been blessed to hear from both of them that they never heard me say an ill thing of him. He is now ill and if they decided they wanted to do something for him. I would help.

BLAP

I wouldn't hesitate to help HER. This is all about her, not your EX.

Connie M.

I would have to say it depends on your feelings for your ex and if, in your heart, you WANT to. You know if you have bitter feelings, you could accidently forget about a hundred straight pins in it. ( just kidding ) I don't have a daughter with my ex. but I do have a son, and if he asked me to help with anything for him I would be glad to do it. Of course being divorced for 39 years makes bitterness fade a lot.

sewbeadit

Help her make it.

cherrio

boy it sucks being a grown up sometimes! haha but I agree; just as I helped her shop for his birthday presents and Christmas and father's day-this is something else you are doing for her-not the ex no matter how big of a jerk or a prince he was in the end. she will remember the time with you and the lesson to rise above.

KerryK

I agree with all the posts that say to help her! It will, more than likely, strengthen the bond with your daughter, and as she grows older, she will love and respect you even more, realizing how difficult it may have been for you.

And Peckish ... the story in the link you provided is so beautifully written, and so touching. The writer is obviously a wonderful person, and I admire her greatly. Thanks for sharing it!

IAmCatOwned

I would sign her up with a beginner class at a local quilt shop. I would not participate in making the quilt. Unless you had a good relationship with your ex's soon to be wife, it would be a mistake to participate. That quilt will never see the light of day or be dumped at the local Salvation Army box as soon as she got wind that you helped.

tslowery

I would help her...he is her dad and your x......enjoy the time spent with her and she will always remember you for loving her enough to help when she grows up and realizes what a hard thing that was for you to do...your love for her will help you do a beautiful job.