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Old 06-22-2016, 07:39 PM
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What a compliment your sister-in-law gave you that she liked your quilted throw so much.
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Old 06-22-2016, 08:28 PM
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Don't forget, she has not seen the quilt yet , and , sad but true, she might not like it.....the colors or the pattern. (when she said I like blue she was thinking powder blue and you were thinking navy blue). So I agree with Bree123,, and put in the note, "before we invest any more time or money, I wanted to get your input on the quilting design choices and let you talk to the LAQ etc........). Keep the "we", after all it is a collaboration between you, sil, niece, and LAQ. Keep it upbeat and positive. But let her call it quits at the level she wants done.

As a shout out to Michellesews, I have always taken the high road, and bent over backwards to be kind. But my relatives consider THAT a slap in the face, because they don't ever choose a high road, they think I can afford it in both money and time and talent, and they are takers, not givers. So nothing I do ever mends fences. Just smile and wave and talk nice like nothing is wrong. Because nothing is wrong with you. (So sorry for your hubbys diagnosis, I am way too familiar with ALS...it not pretty) Jane
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Old 06-22-2016, 08:55 PM
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You say it is your SIL - how is this woman related to you? Is she your DH's sister or is she married to one of your brothers? Could you ask the blood relation how to proceed? Since you already made the top I believe that you may as well see it to a conclusion, or put it away and tell her you will need to wait to have it quilted until you can afford the $.... to have it quilted and see what they say. If they say, fine, no hurry, then you have your answer. Maybe they really didn't have any idea of what they were asking of you.
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Old 06-23-2016, 01:49 AM
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Originally Posted by Tothill View Post
I would not have made the quilt in the first place. But then I do not have much time and less money to be making expensive gifts for people I love, let alone those I do not like.

OP said she used fabric on hand for much of the top, but that fabric was paid for at some point in the past, unless it was gifted to her.

I would not send a bill, but I might consider calling up the sil and saying, Okay I have the top made, but I cannot afford the quilting. Offer her two choices, 1 - you can look up the names and numbers of LAQ in her area and send the flimsy (I would not send batting and backing) with the names and addresses and she can do the rest, or 2 - tell her it will cost X#$ to pay your local LAQ and you will send the quilt in once you have received the payment (in advance only).
Exactly what I would do!!
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Old 06-23-2016, 02:30 AM
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a price should have been discussed before you made it. I do offer ( family discounts) usually just charge what $$ I put into it - but I Always discuss price before I start. I also Never send a quilt with a bill. I am paid before they receive the item. If you expected compensation it would have been best to work out those details before beginning. Chalk this one up to ( lesson learned) -- if you want paid / compensated for your work you need to come to terms in the beginning.
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Old 06-23-2016, 02:42 AM
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I am sure I am too busy to make one at this time, but would add her name to the list.
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Old 06-23-2016, 03:33 AM
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I would have told them in the beginning that I would be happy to make the quilt if they would pay (up front) for materials. Since you already have the top made, you could send the completed top with info on who to send it to to get it completed - backing, quilting and binding. Then again, you can take the high road, complete the quilt and send it with hopes that she will enjoy the quilt. Who knows, it may open some doors that have been closed for a long time.
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Old 06-23-2016, 03:43 AM
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Originally Posted by quiltingcandy View Post
You say it is your SIL - how is this woman related to you? Is she your DH's sister or is she married to one of your brothers? Could you ask the blood relation how to proceed? Since you already made the top I believe that you may as well see it to a conclusion, or put it away and tell her you will need to wait to have it quilted until you can afford the $.... to have it quilted and see what they say. If they say, fine, no hurry, then you have your answer. Maybe they really didn't have any idea of what they were asking of you.
She is my oldest brother's wife, lives in the other side of the country. He pasted away a few years back, but I was not notified till a week later and by another brother. We aren't a real close family. I have seen a lot of great ideas here; I wish I would have thought to make my post early on. But I think I will get it quilted, as cheap as I can ; and just send it to her with a note making mention of the cost of quilting. Maybe she will find it in her heart to reimburse me --maybe not. Either way , I learned my lesson and have picked up some good tips from you guys. Thank you
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Old 06-23-2016, 03:49 AM
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I refuse to be suckered by every one who wants a quilt. I make quilts for those I love, not for someone I would not recognize if I met them on the street. You are not obligated to make quilts for anyone at any time for any reason, Keep that in mind and then tell them nicely that you already have a list a mile long and you will put them at the bottom and if their name ever comes up, you will make one for them. Or same the time and just say "NO"! It's a wonderful word.
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Old 06-23-2016, 04:06 AM
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Include a note to your sister-in-law telling her politely that you did this as a favor to your niece.....that not every one who asks for a homemade quilt gets one.
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