Jan in VA

Keep in mind that you were led to give to her out of love and caring.
Her response, or lack thereof, will be between her and her Lord, and really is no longer in your hands.

It's hard not to be human and need validation, we ALL do, but you have done well, God recognizes it, and He will deal with her if necessary. Perhaps you and He both will give her a love gift of time as well.

Try to let go as you remember you didn't give it to her for thank yous.

amma

This quilt is very beautiful and I love the bright colors :D:D:D

I am sorry she was not as excited as you hoped she would be... I have found if I ask first if there is an interest in receiving a quilt, there is less chance of disappointment on my end. Quilts just aren't everyone's thing :( (((HUGS)))

pab58

I agree. I imagine that the first time she wraps herself up in it she will realize just how special your gift to her really was. Give her time. :wink: If she still doesn't seem to appreciate your gift, then let the ill feelings go. You know how much love you put into it -- even if she doesn't. Sometimes it is a crap shoot when gifting someone with a quilt. Back in May of this year I made a Curious George quilt for my fiance's youngest grandson -- even though he tried to discourage me from making a quilt for either of his grandsons. I have been to his son's home several times and he (my fiance) has been there even more than I have, and we have yet to see that quilt anywhere!! Nothing has ever even been mentioned about it!! My fiance's daughter-in-law has never thanked me for it either. Whenever we've asked his grandsons about the quilt, we just get a blank look. It makes me wonder if I should spend all the time it would take to make each of them an "I Spy" quilt since I don't know if they would even appreciate it. Then I tell myself to go ahead and do it anyway because I know I am doing it because I love them.

BTW: I absolutely LOVE your quilt!!

rootyr

I have had this happen to but later learned how much the person loves the quilt. It could be her current circumstance making her be like that. I am sure it will bring her more comfort than you realize. Don't stop doing for your friends. Each one may react differently but deep down I think they treasure your gift. You did a fantastic job!

Annya

I have the same opinion. Some time when things are all against you and some nice gives you a gift from the heart, it is really hard then and there to say how you feel. Just when you least expect it I am sure your friend will come and say thank you. Maybe not for a while but she will.

meemeepeggy

Beautiful and very thoughtful. It is possible that with being soooo overwhelmed by the things in life around her that she just was not capable of the excitement nor appreciation. BUT you did a wonderful thing here and it will be something she can reflect on through the years (and it may take that long for her to understand what you truly did). Just think of it as a good deed that you were inspired to do and take pride in your work.

Roxanne

Your quilt is beautiful and breathtaking. I'm sure in later years it will be a treasured item for your friend.
We all need to remember that not everyone is as affected by our quilt and quilting as we are. And even if our gift is appreciated it doesn't have the same impact on everyone.

I have only made quilts for my family members. All 4 of my sisters treasure and use their quilts on their beds. Both my brothers have theirs out on their couches and cover up for naps and tv watching. I was so distressed when I visited one of my nieces recently to find hers on the top shelf of her bedroom closet. The others--who knows. The point is that we "LOVE" to make them and give them. Someday when I'm no longer here, I hope even the niece who has hers on the shelf, will remember it was lovingly made and given to her by her favorite aunt!

Roxanne

AngieS

That is really pretty! I can't believe how some people react. Maybe she didn't know how to react to such a gift. Hugs!

Susanna10

I made a quilt for my sister after my 21 year old niece was murdered. It was therapy for me, but she did not seem impressed with it when I gave it to her. The rest of the family thought it was beautiful. She was really impressed at the time, but the hurt was just too much for her at the time. That was 5 years ago and she understands the quilt and loves it.

snicker dee

I have seen several posts about quilt-gifts not being appreciated. And I have had that happen as well ... via both my parents and a sister. It hurts badly. So now when I think I want to make a quilt for someone I let them know I would like to do this AND why. If they are receptive then I also include them in the process .... color choices, patterns etc This has worked out wonderful for those receiving and for me, giving !! The quilt itself is still a surprise bec the end result is so pretty!