quiltjoey

My mother used to say hurtful things but I learned to "rise above it". It took me a long time but I was able to let things she said just roll off...
Sometimes parents are jealous of their children especially when it comes to age. Parents can resent a child's age as they begin to grow older and become Gparents. A lot of women don't like that GC are a reality that shows they are growing older. My mom lived to be 91 and spent her last year with me. I was never the favored child and was told that almost every day. But before she died I just realized that was the way she was and wasn't going to change. I loved her anyway! My husband of 49 years was also a great help when she got a little tough...You can rise above it also. It may just take some work on your part. Good luck. Keep making quilts and smile at them as you go....

jhoward

Not on your life is it cheating....I saw a quilt yesterday, that I made for my niece 30 yrs ago...my gr neice is using it....I did that very same thing...brought the back around to the front for a border/binding...it's still holding together.....
No quilt police on this board....

C.Cal Quilt Girl

Nope, your choice, your Finished Quilt !!

GwynR

Wow, that's the way I learned originally to bind a quilt. I honestly thought the separate binding was "cheating"! I like both ways!

k9dancer

A cup of tea will definitely help.

I am not crazy about the self binding method, as I think it is harder to do than 'regular' binding. That said, I know a lot of quilters that do self binding all the time.

You are a good daughter for rising above it. One day, you may actually miss her nagging. (Really, in a hundred years, who is going to care about your binding?) Besides, you could always say, "But Mom, I can't do that binding as well as you do."

Pickles

Ditto I also agree whole heartedly

pittsburgpam

That's how my grandmother did hers and she made at least one quilt for every child, grandchild, great-grandchild, etc. Hers were all tied and the backing was used as the binding.

Don't pay any mind to people who critisize your work!

Annaquilts

I do this at times and so do some of my friends. I have one friend that believes in hand quilting only and she always turns fabric from the back to the front for the binding. It is perfectly acceptable.

butterflywing

it's called a self-binding. offer to teach her the method so she can finish her own quilts so when you inherit them you won't have to finish them all. don't laugh when you do this. say it with a straight face. (she'll probably get even by leaving them to strangers, but it might be worth it)

skydiver70

Mama did a lot of her quilts that way. Just brought the backing around and used as the binding. It saved money then and now.