Originally Posted by nancia

missy--some people can deal with anything until they are hit in the face with reality. your mom probably doesn't have a problem with your sexuality, but does have a problem with others judging you. my son is gay. i think i knew it before he did. i have seen him kiss another guy on the lips, and the first time i felt a little uncomfortable, but that has worn off over time.no great ball of fire came out of the sky, nobody pointed and nobody said anything, life went on. is this the first time your mom has seen you with a woman you love? it is different from what we as mom's expected to see. it's not usual for us, until it becomes usual over time and experience. i have so many friends that are of a variety of orientations. i met a slew of wonderful gay people before my son came out and we formed very strong emotional bonds. i think God led me to them, and vice versa because i would need their strength and experience to best serve my son. nobody can be held responsible for their eye color, how can we hold someone responsible for how God made them? sadly there are a lot of people in the world who think their opinion counts more than anyone else's.
don't let it bother you if you can. we love you just the way you are! i haven't been on here long, but i feel a real connection to you, and i even write comments that i think you will find funny hoping it will make you laugh and brighten your day. i've seen that you are a smart, warm and loving person who truly cares about others and is working to be the healthiest she can be. now, go give cathy a kiss, tell your mom to get used to it because it is the new normal! here's a (((hug)))(i love doing that!) and a mom saying it's ok to be who you are, in fact, it's great!

Originally Posted by irishrose

Missy, I'm sorry you were hurt by your staunchest ally. Your mother has been at your side through so much. In your defense, you're right, your sister and fiance need to show restraint in public. In your mother's defense, you've got to remember that yours is the first generation that being lesbian is openly acceptable. Your mother was raised in another time and has done well to be supportive to date. She also comes from a generation that worries about what other people think which would explain by she was upset in public when she isn't at home. My ex husband had that one down pat, though somehow it skipped me. Also being the mother of the bride can be stressful. You are expected to know all the answers even before the question is asked.

I think you and your mother need to have a cup of tea together and make peace with where you are at. The mother/daughter bond is stronger than the glitches that come along.

I'm also sorry you are getting PMs like that. That is just cowardly for someone to attack privately. BTW, in my post, I wasn't defending you. I was just telling the truth. You are a valuable part of this thread. Maybe I shouldn't have come back to edit my first response. I decided this thread was not the place for my red headed temper to fly, so I removed the last part.

Last week I taught my 13 year old granddaughter to stand and walk tall. - "Get your shoulders back and butt under you and be proud of who you are." Good advice for all of us.

Hugs to all who need one and hugs to all who don't know they need one. We all do.

I AM losing weight.
Judy

Originally Posted by quilthappygail

Missy I'm sending you a great big hug and do sit down with your mom and have that talk. Judy you are right on.
Hugs to you and your mom.
Gail

Originally Posted by JHolm

Missy, I agree with what others have said in response to your situation with your mom. It's hard when someone you rely on and trust has an "emotional slip". You are such a wonderful, caring person that I wonder what hurts the most, your mom's comment or what you said in response. Hang in there and be strong. You've always been an inspiration to me. I'm getting stronger and braver everyday because of your example. (((((HUGS))))) to you. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless.

Originally Posted by SWChick

MJ, Irishrose, Missy, not try to cause trouble by stating why I won't be joining the weight lose thread. To try to say I am against Missy because she is gay i s such a lie. I believe everyone should be able to love whoever they choose. I belong to at least 3 quilting boards and am invoved in each in someway. I post on pictures and main, have started threads on main. I am a member who is involved and I do not deserve to be accused of prejudice when I don't care who loves who and it is wrong to make others think this about me. I will protest this because I do not believe that you have the right to lie about me.

Originally Posted by vintage cowgirl

Dear Missy
Sorry you are having so much stress in your life. My daughter is also gay and I have always supported her. I don't think anyone should be alone in life and I don't understand parents that don't love their children unconditionally. My daughter partner passed away with cancer and I helped take care of her while she was sick because her family told her God was punishing her and that she was going to hell. I really wanted to tell her Mother and sisters a thing or two but respected my daughters wishes to keep my mouth shut.
Okay enough about that. You see from this group that there are lots of people who love and support you .Hold your head up high and enjoy life and be d----ed with the rest.
Love you and hope you lose weight.

Originally Posted by Pam H

Guess I'm a day late and a dollar short. I would love to join if you allow late comers.