Scrap Happy

I believe if she knew she made you feel bad she would feel terrible. She probably trusted you enough to let you know what more she wanted in the quilt and didn't think for a second it would upset you. Personally I think she should have just put a dust ruffle on the bed. She probably has no idea how much time and thought (and love) went into this quilt.

I made a quilt for my DMIL and she kept it in the closet. I wasn't hurt just wish I had made something she liked. After she passed away my DSIL wanted it and DH was fine with it so now it is being loved.

Pegleg

Maybe your MIL was like so many older people, She was saving it for good. I'm not going to leave my children with anything that I have saved for good. We never know how much time we have and if given a gift we should use it. I'm so glad that it has found a home that will use and treasure it.

luckylindy333

I think I would have told her to buy a dust ruffle...

trugger

I can understand the disappointment, but it doesn't sound like the recipient meant to be insulting.

ckcowl

instead of taking this as a negative think of it as...she loves the quilt enough she wants to make it even more usable in her world (with your assistance) much better than going to visit to find out the quilt is on a closet shelf because it (needed a ruffle)
be happy she loves it that much!
i made my sister in law a quilt one time...a crazy quilt with velvets, silks, lots of hand work...beautiful...i made it to go on their new leather sofa...where it looks beautiful! sister in law decided a quilt should be on the bed instead of on the couch..so hid it away because it's too small for her bed...it took a year for me to find out the (truth) about the quilt. when i made it i thought it was perfect for what i made it for...not my house...not my decision...not so perfect after all...at least your friend was up=front enough to let you know (and help) make it fit (her) better...i wish mine behaved the same :thumbup:

quiltmaker

She loved your quilt and also trusted you to make the ruffles. Just because she wanted ruffles doesn't mean she was trying to hurt you. I feel it was in a sense an honor that she came to you for help in what she liked. It had nothing to do with how she felt about the quilt as she obviously loves it but just desired ruffles. Strange as that may sound to many of us...she probably felt the ruffles would add to what her dream look for her bedroom would be... We all have different tastes....and she did come to you for help in accomplishing what her vision of her dream room would be. I truly don't think she was being thoughtless as she obviously loved the quilt you made her...she just wanted an added touch to it. I would have felt honored and not bothered by her saying it was finally beautiful...she just had her own vision and you were gracious enough to help her create her dream room. I imagine that she will always be grateful to you and in no way felt she was hurting/insulting you but actually believed in your abilities and creative talent to take it a bit further to create her version of a very special bedroom.

jitkaau

One that I made for a friend ended up being cut down because she only liked the quilt to sit on top of the bed and not over the sides.I put it down to the fact that I wasn't observant enough and I don't give them away any more.They are made to order and I am not disappointed.

lillybeck

I am sorry you got your feelings hurt. Been there and done that but I am sure since she had you help her that she did not mean to be so insensitive. You made her a beautiful quilt that she is displaying on her bed and you know how she changed it so it is no surprise to you so just enjoy the fact that she loves it enought to want it on her bed.

kraftykimberly

No no no, she was not trying to hurt or insult you at all. We are all different, our tastes in anything and everything vary from person to person and are rarely the same. It's like vanilla/chocolate, morning person/night owl, mayo/miracle whip, you are usually one or the other, but that doesnt make just one of them "right". It's like if you were to choose a dress with spaghett straps or a dress with ruffles, your choice wouldnt be right or wrong, it would just be your preference. Your friend prefers ruffles. Take comfort in knowing she is content with her new quilt with ruffles. Wouldnt be my thing either but neither is miracle whip :-)

grandjan

Of course you weren't wrong, but she probably didn't mean to hurt you. Chalk it up to ignorance about the challenges of making a quilt, and being oblivious to the fact that you would have some emotional investment in your creation. Your friend is tactless and you are a doll to quietly help her "fix up" your quilt.