Was I wrong to be disappointed???
03-23-2011, 05:56 AM
#42
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OMG Din who would put a ruffle on a quilt. I would have been disappointed too ,thats like going to someones house you gave a quilt to and the kids are playing on it are you are looking for it and you don't see it anywhere.
Deemars
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03-23-2011, 07:05 AM
#43
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I don't see anything wrong with her putting a "dust ruffle" on your quilt. In fact, the color she used may have enhanced the quilt. If I had a quilt for my bed, I would put a ruffle on it.
My reason and possibly your friends, I cannot put a "bed skirt" Dust Ruffle between my matress and springs.
Don't feel bad! What if she just gave it back like some I've read. Be happy that she is happy with it!
My reason and possibly your friends, I cannot put a "bed skirt" Dust Ruffle between my matress and springs.
Don't feel bad! What if she just gave it back like some I've read. Be happy that she is happy with it!
03-23-2011, 07:07 AM
#44
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I can undetstand being hurt but I really think your friend didn't mean to hurt your feelings by the comment she made...people say things and don't realize the impact of their words. If she really disliked it, it would have disappeared. She asked you to add a ruffle because she wanted a quilted bedspread (IMHO). It is hard to make a perfert gift for anyone I think. I thought I knew my brother well but after one gift disaster, I now ask what he wants. For me, once I give something to someone, I try to let go. For someone who doesn't craft/quilt/crochet/knit, they don't understand that every step of the process is filled with thoughts of them. They are the inspiration and there is no greater tribute to our loved ones than the products of our hands and hearts. I send (((HUGS))) to you and yours.
03-23-2011, 07:19 AM
#46
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When I give a quilt (or anything hand made) as a gift, it is just that, a gift. If they want to change to make it more usable for them I'm all for it. However I am extremely selective who I give hand made gifts to. Having 4 sisters and a brother with lots of nieces and nephews and grand nieces and nephews I know they all appreciate them.
Marie M.
Marie M.
03-23-2011, 07:19 AM
#47
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When I give a quilt (or anything hand made) as a gift, it is just that, a gift. If they want to change to make it more usable for them I'm all for it. However I am extremely selective who I give hand made gifts to. Having 4 sisters and a brother with lots of nieces and nephews and grand nieces and nephews I know they all appreciate them.
Marie M.
Marie M.
03-23-2011, 07:26 AM
#49
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I would be thrilled she is using it and that she was comfortable enough with you to express herself and ask for help. I guess in her mind it needed ruffles. I have a quilt I designed and made for DD and she wants stuff on it. It is laying in my studio right now and I am collecting buttons.
03-23-2011, 07:30 AM
#50
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Purple AND ruffled... gag. I see it a little differently. If she wanted a ruffle, so be it and you helped her, but to say "Finally beautiful", like your work needed her finishing touch to become beautiful, was just plain RUDE. If that's what she thought, she should have kept that thought to herself. If it was ME, I would have to tell her how/why she hurt my feelings by what she said, before I could go on the same way with the friendship. Give her that chance to explain what she meant by that statement and to apologize. Adding the ruffle wasn't rude (chalk it up to taste) but those words sure were!
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