Is that activity really necessary?
#71
I've tried for years to get my family to buy ourselves individually something we really want but won't buy. That way we are sure to love out gifts.
I also suggested that we donate to charity instead of buying gifts.
I also suggested that we donate to charity instead of buying gifts.
#72
Well, I, for one, am not going crazy during the Christmas holiday spending money or baking like mad. First, money is precious and not enough of it so I am not spending mine on junk gifts or for people I don't like or know. The schools have hit us up with picture day, fund raisers, bazarrs, food drives and now holiday parties which almost seem back to back since school started. Am I right about this? I don't want to rain on anyones parade, but for heaven's sake, isn't there enough to do without all the school activities to add to it? My kids and grandchildren get stuff throughout the year so I don't see an issue if there isn't something under the tree. I think too many people forget the reason for the season.....has anyone even mentioned our Savior Jesus Christ? I am not getting all religious, but how about spending a peaceful and joyful holiday without the pressure of spending our last dime on giftgiving. Everyone bring a dish and enjoy each other's company instead. Makes sense to me and the dishes won't pile up in the sink either, nor will the host be pressured to cooking over a hot stove all day. Before you know it, the day is over and the stores are breaking out the chocolates for Valentines Day and swimsuits are just around the corner. Best way to get thru the season is to think rationally and spend wisely.
Wishing everyone a happy holiday and that you all stay safe and warm. Seasons Greetings.
Wishing everyone a happy holiday and that you all stay safe and warm. Seasons Greetings.
#73
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: SE Qld. Australia
Posts: 271
I can understand what you are going through Melinda, the same thing happens to me. My mum died just before Xmas when I was 12 - a lot longer than 20 ago years too - and I still get depressed every early December. Xmas has never been the same since, although I did set traditions of our own after I married.
The only decorating I'll do this year (and have done for the last 15 years) is to hang the wreath on the front door - *if* I can find it. Gave DS2 and DIL all my Xmas decorations last year - all 46 years of them. I can't see the point in putting the tree etc up just for me, the cat, and budgie; and I hate taking it down and packing it all away.
Gave up making the Xmas Biscuits when it became too much for my back having to stand and cut them out.
Grandkids get gift cards, as does DS1 and his wife. DS2 has a standing order for the new Bryce Courtney Book, and DIL for the new Danielle Steel book. Sister gets a gift card, and her partner a book on American Indians. End of Xmas shopping - apart from Secret Santa shopping.
If it wasn't for DS2 and his family, and my sister, Xmas would be cancelled in this house for lack of interest.
The only decorating I'll do this year (and have done for the last 15 years) is to hang the wreath on the front door - *if* I can find it. Gave DS2 and DIL all my Xmas decorations last year - all 46 years of them. I can't see the point in putting the tree etc up just for me, the cat, and budgie; and I hate taking it down and packing it all away.
Gave up making the Xmas Biscuits when it became too much for my back having to stand and cut them out.
Grandkids get gift cards, as does DS1 and his wife. DS2 has a standing order for the new Bryce Courtney Book, and DIL for the new Danielle Steel book. Sister gets a gift card, and her partner a book on American Indians. End of Xmas shopping - apart from Secret Santa shopping.
If it wasn't for DS2 and his family, and my sister, Xmas would be cancelled in this house for lack of interest.
#74
Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Marengo, Iowa
Posts: 802
Originally Posted by Melinda in Tulsa
I guess I'm the real scrouge in the bunch. I do not enjoy Christmas, in fact I hardily dislike it. 20 years ago I suffered a devastating loss on Christmas Day. Ever since then, I just can not get into Christmas. Early Dec each year I sink into a depression that I just can not pull myself out of until after the holidays. My wonderful DH understands this and humors me and supports me thru this time.
My children (all grown) just do not understand. I only give gifts to the grandchildren (now I have 2 of them) and I resent the time and money spent there as it is NOT appreciated. I don't decorate, or do anything extra. Sorry to be a party pooper friends. I have finally realized that this sadness will never go away, since it has been 20 years and shows no sign of abating.
But I cheer all of you on that enjoy this time of year!
:thumbup: Have a very Merry and enjoyable Christmas!
My children (all grown) just do not understand. I only give gifts to the grandchildren (now I have 2 of them) and I resent the time and money spent there as it is NOT appreciated. I don't decorate, or do anything extra. Sorry to be a party pooper friends. I have finally realized that this sadness will never go away, since it has been 20 years and shows no sign of abating.
But I cheer all of you on that enjoy this time of year!
:thumbup: Have a very Merry and enjoyable Christmas!
#75
To Melinda in Tulsa, I am SO sorry about your loss and sadness, even 20 years later. I breaks my heart to think that you suffer so much. At the risk of offending you, may I please suggest that you see your doctor and try a prescription for antidepressants? I am not pushing pills, but I also hate to think of anyone suffering like this, not to mention the loved ones around you who must also be so sad because they can't help you. In this day and age there is medical help. Even if you only decide to take meds during the month of December that may help you get over the difficult month. Don't be too "proud" to talk to your doctor. 20 years is too long for this to go on. Good luck.
#76
Super Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Galveston Texas
Posts: 1,596
I am retired, and old enough to realize that the things that cause us the most stress usually aren't that important. I have told my children to adopt a family instead of giving us a present. I try to give each of my 3 children a small gift, money to the older GK, and presents for the youngest 3, 2 of which still believe.
Unfortunately tragedy doesn't care if it is a holiday, it happens anyway. They are bad at any time but it does seem like around the holidays, when you are supposed to be in a jolly mood, it magnifies it. That is when we miss family the most. I know they are watching but I miss the hugs.
My idea of the perfect Christmas is to give to the ones that have nothing, visit with my children and grandchildren, dinner at someone elses house, go to mass, and relax.
Unfortunately tragedy doesn't care if it is a holiday, it happens anyway. They are bad at any time but it does seem like around the holidays, when you are supposed to be in a jolly mood, it magnifies it. That is when we miss family the most. I know they are watching but I miss the hugs.
My idea of the perfect Christmas is to give to the ones that have nothing, visit with my children and grandchildren, dinner at someone elses house, go to mass, and relax.
#77
Super Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Central Willamette Valley, Oregon, USA
Posts: 7,695
Originally Posted by Melinda in Tulsa
I guess I'm the real scrouge in the bunch. I do not enjoy Christmas, in fact I hardily dislike it. 20 years ago I suffered a devastating loss on Christmas Day. Ever since then, I just can not get into Christmas. Early Dec each year I sink into a depression that I just can not pull myself out of until after the holidays. My wonderful DH understands this and humors me and supports me thru this time.
My children (all grown) just do not understand. I only give gifts to the grandchildren (now I have 2 of them) and I resent the time and money spent there as it is NOT appreciated. I don't decorate, or do anything extra. Sorry to be a party pooper friends. I have finally realized that this sadness will never go away, since it has been 20 years and shows no sign of abating.
But I cheer all of you on that enjoy this time of year!
:thumbup: Have a very Merry and enjoyable Christmas!
My children (all grown) just do not understand. I only give gifts to the grandchildren (now I have 2 of them) and I resent the time and money spent there as it is NOT appreciated. I don't decorate, or do anything extra. Sorry to be a party pooper friends. I have finally realized that this sadness will never go away, since it has been 20 years and shows no sign of abating.
But I cheer all of you on that enjoy this time of year!
:thumbup: Have a very Merry and enjoyable Christmas!
#78
I love Christmas! I decorate what I feel like decorating, bake what I enjoy,make gifts for those I have time and try to remember that "Jesus is the reason for the season". No one should dictate what others should or should not do for the season.
#79
sometimes it's hard to be in the christmas spirit, I loss my daughter 2 1/2 years ago and she loved christmas went all out for it. I didn't want to do holidays again but my grandkids said that wasn't fair to them. I don't spent what I don't have, but always tryed to make it fun. so I didn't give up christmas, now I have 2 greatgrandkids and they are here this year and the smiles on their faces makes it all worth while. it doesn't make the pain go away but helps me to bear it. God bless you and hope you have a good day.
#80
We are facing a real true life crisis this Holiday season. Sooooooooooo, no decorations going up, no sitting at the sewing machine for hours on end, no cards getting mailed, just sending love to all when I email or talk by phone. If we make it through December, we will have had the Christmas miracle of our lives. What more could one ask for?
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