How would you have responded?
02-20-2011, 08:12 PM
#31
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Originally Posted by ptquilts
or try saying, "you know I am friends with Ms. Designer, why would you want me to cheat her out of her hard-earned profits?"
02-20-2011, 08:14 PM
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All of you woman have the right response... honesty is always the best policy and when she said Oh Goody you have it.. I will get it from you.. she was using you. That is not a friend in my eyes either. Sharing is one thing but respect comes first. A true friend would not try to use you to get something that she had no right to in the first place and that was illegal. I say, tell her No and if it does ruin the friendship, she wasn't worth having as a friend. I hate when people do that and say they want or will take my things like they have the right. It is just not respectful or ethical.
02-20-2011, 08:17 PM
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I would just say No. It is very hard for me to say and I have been another person who has tried to make the offending person not feel uncomfortable. By doing that I have had bad feelings about myself that are hard to get over. So I am learning to just say No. The more we practice it when we know it is the right thing to say, the better we will get at it. So just say No. She knows she is in the wrong, but wants to make it ok by having you agree with her. Don't!
02-20-2011, 08:35 PM
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I have a friend who is very generous with me in every way but every time I take a course of any kind she always asks for the pattern.For years I have said "no the teacher doesn't want us to share her directions". This stops her for a while till she finds I have gone to anoter course. I have told her about courses and financially she is able to do them she just doesn't want to go! I feel bad about this as she is so generous in every other way. I even went so far as to pay and give her a course for a birthday gift and she was a no show!!!
02-20-2011, 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
Originally Posted by Cyn
Just say you don't have it anymore. I'd try to save the relationship by saying I lost the pattern but will let her know when it shows up. I guess I lie :(
02-20-2011, 08:47 PM
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Originally Posted by DogHouseMom
you are both friends of the designer? So she's asking one friend to help cheat another friend? My oh my.
OK ... invite her over. Invite the designer friend at the same time. Tell the designer friend to bring a copy because the other friend wants it. When the designer arrives it's up to her if she feels like giving it away or selling it.
Ta da.
OK ... invite her over. Invite the designer friend at the same time. Tell the designer friend to bring a copy because the other friend wants it. When the designer arrives it's up to her if she feels like giving it away or selling it.
Ta da.
02-20-2011, 08:50 PM
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You can just tell her that the pattern is not meant to be passed around once purchased. If she wants to ask the designer for permission to use yours and she agrees and you agree, then that is another thing.
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