How would you have responded?
#132
Or you could just try the truth - give HER a call and tell her that after thinking it over you KNOW just cannot give her the pattern because you would be cheating the artist our of her deserved income. Period. If she hangs up - good riddance to bad company.
#134
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: West Virginia
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I agree with all the others. Just ask her "what part of the word NO don't you understand". I cannot and I will not give you the pattern. It is against the law. End of conversation. If you lose her as a friend then you didn't lose very much I'd say.
#136
ahhh, why exactly are you trying to keep a relationship going with a person like this??? My MIL has "friends" like this - they use her right to the wall and she hates it and she hates her self for putting up w/ it, but she ends up smiling and being used. sharet
#137
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Sandhills area of N. C.
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God only knows why some people are just plain ignorant!! Some people don't care. I tend to think if it is family (close family) that can't afford something, I give in and give them the item. But if the friend is more than able to buy the pattern--tell her it is AGAINST THE LAW to give her a copy because it is copyrighted.
You will feel better after you do it the first time and it will be easier the next time.
Carol from NC
You will feel better after you do it the first time and it will be easier the next time.
Carol from NC
#138
You can always use the line that has always worked for me..." I'm not comfortable doing that". Plain and simple easy to understand--puts it back on her. Is she going to make you "uncomfortable? Although sometimes it doesn't matter what you say!! I had a lady that came to our group occasionally she found out I had a pattern that she wanted she went to the grocery store where I was shopping and asked me for it. And that's what I told her and she never approached me again. Why should you have to agonize over this?? Some friend. Pam
#139
I have done as you did- it is unfair to the creator's intellectual ownership and to your integrity. Apart from that, why do people assume that you will give them for free what it cost you $$ to obtain? If the person has no integrity it doesn't matter if you terminate the acquaintance.
#140
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Galveston Texas
Posts: 1,596
Simply tell her "No, it is copyrighted", if she keeps on, just repeat the same sentence each time she comes back with something. I read this somewhere in an article on confrontation. It keeps them from wearing you down.
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